College Guys and Girls

First off, like this blog on Facebook! I love writing for you so let me know if you like this or not. :)

There is a DRASTIC difference between the two. I've always believed in a saying about the two,

"Boys will simply want things to happen for them, but men will always make it happen."

and one of my all-time favorite,

"Men with good intentions make promises. Men with good character, keep them." 

I have yet to meet a quality man who can follow through with the above. I know, I'm young but honestly, I can't wait until that day comes. What do I know about "men" right? Well I'll answer that in a few weeks. I'll definitely come back to that.

College Guys

So there's this thing called the "Fungeon" and it's located under the wing I currently reside in at my hall. It's basically the basement with about.. oh say 15 guys or so. They're the guys who throw parties but they're also pretty awesome. A few of my friends live down there and they're a handful. haha. I've made more guy friends than I did girl friends. A few tips to guys AND to girls about ways to befriend the opposite sex.

Girls

• Look at the area and sit next to a guy! Sometimes they're busy of course, but you can tell if they are or not about 85% of the time. Just be friendly and go for it!

• Bake/cook food! As sexist as it sounds, the community kitchen is a great place to be. The smell of freshly made goods are always inviting. Just be sure to make more than one serving. 

• Hang out in common areas and be where people can see you and be open to talking to others. 

• Ask the other person and simply listen to their interests, and see if you have things in common. Also, if you're in a dorm, leave your door open. It seems more inviting and people are curious to see what's behind it. 

• Don't make hints to guys. They won't pick up on it. Just try to be casual about what you want to talk about. It's a kind and sensitive way to talk to people and make sure you can talk about something you both can relate to. 

     Examples of topic questions:

          Where are you from? What's your hometown like? Have any hobbies? Favorite subject? Music? Favorite food? These are all surface level questions that don't necessarily dig deep so as to not make the person feel uncomfortable, but it starts off a great conversation.

Guys

        It's harder to give you specific guidelines since I'm not a guy, but I'll tell you what I see happen a lot and what the input from my friends say. 

• There are certain situations where a girl is okay to talk to. Think of this, if you see them out in public and they might be working on something, just ask what it is and see if you can help. If they're in public, it's more likely that they are hoping to talk to people instead of being in the library or their room. 

• If she's walking by as though she's on the way to class, just say hi and smile. That's it. They don't need to know you at that point, they're going to be late for class. But she's more likely to recognize you later if you two meet again. The little things matter. Especially if she makes first contact, capitalize on that. 

• Say she's sitting somewhere alone, make a good impression. The best way to give a first impression is to smile, or give a nice compliment. Girls love compliments FYI.

• If you're both in class, sit next to her! Be friendly, definitely be helpful, and if she needs a partner... Offer your awesome skills of whatever subject you're in. Haha.

• NEVER APPROACH IF NUMBERS ARE GREATER THAN 3. Proceed at your own risk. 

Well that's the  best I can do for now. Don't forget to email me HERE. :) Thanks! 

Love,

-Julsie <3



*With help from Nicholas Gosselin, Hope Barnes, and Nicholas Lee. :3